Premarital counseling is focused on educating the couple on how to maintain good love over a lifetime.
Sustainable love which occurs in committed long term relationships is based on healthy non-defensive interaction between partners. Healthy love is evident when there is a willingness to meet and respond to the needs of your partner in a don-defensive and non-reactive way. Love feels good when it comes from a healthy connection between partners. Love feels good when it is mutual and reciprocal, with a back and forth exchange between the participants. Love is a respectful, thoughtful, considerate hearing and responding to the needs of one's partner. Couples build trust in one another through the mutual exchange of consistently meeting each other's need for connection and love with mindful care. When this occurs in relationship the partners are soothed and feel safe and secure.
The sessions include: your attachment histories, learning your maps of love and pain in relationship, effective coupling, how to become a healing partner, learning to build trust through attunement, effective and productive arguing, understanding the rupture and repair cycle, and developing a great connected sex life.